I used to have a vision, of perfect family life We’d laugh and cuddle every day, no hint of tears or strife I saw this as a challenge, a problem I could solve I’d find the path to daily peace, contentment for us all
I researched, read and listened, searched for answers far and wide Sure I would find the solution, with logic on my side The more I chased my dream, the more it slipped away Arguments and resentments churned a little more each day
The mounting waves of should’s and must’s, tools and strategy Built so high they overwhelmed, crashed my energy Engulfed, tossed, turned, depleted and unsure At rock bottom came a clarity I hadn’t felt before
I stilled enough to listen to the voice that lives within Finally it was clear, where I needed to begin Family tensions aren’t a problem, but a normal part of life My reaction to it though, could calm or fan the strife Instead of seeing tears and shouts as something to be corrected I began to see the needs they masked, emotions now accepted
In letting go of judgment and the need to keep control, My wounds began to heal, energy infused my soul In learning how to feel and let go, a magic slowly unfurled Our bonds began to deepen, we felt the compassion that lives in this world
I saw the strength in vulnerability, where once I only saw pain Instead of turning away I met it with love, time and again As I look upon the tension, now I see through eyes that know It’s not a battle to be fought and won, but a chance to learn and grow.
Like seasons and the waves, our lives will ebb and flow Sometimes we’ll hold on, sometimes we’ll need to let go For the secret to family life and keeping joy alive in our souls Is accepting that life won’t be perfect, that perfection was never the goal Some days will bring despair and hurt, some day’s will bring laughter and fun Even the hardest of days can spark wonder, at what each of us might become
You captured the steps of the journey wonderfully. Beautiful and insightful! This really spoke to me. I believe I am on a similar path as you. Your poem allowed me to see that path more clearly. It brought me a sense of peace and faith that I am not alone and that this path is something good and beautiful. Thank you for sharing your experiences. Your family is beautiful.
Thank you so much. It’s wonderful to hear it resonated with you so deeply and that it brought you more clarity.
It’s a difficult path to follow and I do find myself falling back into old patterns sometimes, but I think going in circles can also be part of the path, the trick is to trust that I’m heading in the right direction, to have faith, as you said x
I think that’s the only way change happens…we imagine that once we decide on a new pattern then that’s it, but actually it’s a process and one that’s never truly done.
“letting go of judgment and the need to keep control”
Therein is the crux of it for me. Once I gave up judging and feeling like I had to control everything, I got happier. Life is messier now, but much better I feel.
It’s so true Ally…I still struggle with it at times though…sometimes I can slip back into old patterns without really knowing how I got there, but there’s awareness when I do, so I guess that’s progress!
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You captured the steps of the journey wonderfully. Beautiful and insightful! This really spoke to me. I believe I am on a similar path as you. Your poem allowed me to see that path more clearly. It brought me a sense of peace and faith that I am not alone and that this path is something good and beautiful. Thank you for sharing your experiences. Your family is beautiful.
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Thank you so much. It’s wonderful to hear it resonated with you so deeply and that it brought you more clarity.
It’s a difficult path to follow and I do find myself falling back into old patterns sometimes, but I think going in circles can also be part of the path, the trick is to trust that I’m heading in the right direction, to have faith, as you said x
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Yes, I end up in the old patterns too. But I do think I’m picking up and practicing new ones now as well. 🌱
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I think that’s the only way change happens…we imagine that once we decide on a new pattern then that’s it, but actually it’s a process and one that’s never truly done.
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Great read x
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Thanks lovely 😊 xxx
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This is so heartfelt and really true for so many struggling to be “ perfect”. Just love it. X
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Thanks so much lovely Mandy 🙏 ☺️xx
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“letting go of judgment and the need to keep control”
Therein is the crux of it for me. Once I gave up judging and feeling like I had to control everything, I got happier. Life is messier now, but much better I feel.
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It’s so true Ally…I still struggle with it at times though…sometimes I can slip back into old patterns without really knowing how I got there, but there’s awareness when I do, so I guess that’s progress!
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