I was chatting to a young person in their twenties recently who had been bereaved unexpectedly, and more than once, in a short space of time. On top of this sadness, they had experienced some difficult relationships which had meant the end of a close friendship. In chatting to this person it was clear they … Continue reading Spirituality without the spirit
I’ve been working hard over the years to cultivate a state of being that sweats the small stuff less. I’ve been more successful than I dared hope, but just when I think I’ve got it all figured out, a curve ball reminds me there’s always more work to do. I’ve just returned from a week’s … Continue reading Screw-ups: the school of life’s most successful teacher
I used to be a great sleeper. If you asked me what my superpower was, it would be sleep. I was a sleep ninja, adept at drifting to the land of nod and staying cocooned there until morning (discounting those years when my children were young and a solid night's sleep was a distant memory: … Continue reading Write it out
I’ve been writing a poem on the theme of change for my poetry group next month and it started me thinking about change in relation to personal growth (to be fair, it’s not very often I’m not thinking about this in some capacity, being a bit of a self-improvement junkie). But is got me wondering: … Continue reading Change: incremental or monumental?
At the end of 2021 I found myself in the peculiar position of feeling like I was back to square one in terms of my overthinking and worrying ways. I've written before about the non-linear aspects of change, but there are some things you think you've just cracked, and for me overthinking and ruminating fell … Continue reading New Year, Same Worries: overcoming the merry-go-round of rumination
There’s been a collective vibe of ‘mehness’ floating around lately. I think many of us have been feeling it in some form or another, so imagine my delight when an exercise in a book I’m reading gave me pause to realise just how much I have to be grateful for. The book is The Artist’s … Continue reading A little bit of what lights you up
I was talking to a friend over the weekend and we were lamenting how hard it is to stay in the mindset of a shift we’d like to make. We’d read all the books, listened to all the podcasts, made some good progress, but when we stopped paying attention and let go of the external … Continue reading The slippery quality of change: can we ever make it stick?
Walking my dog I came across something I have never noticed in my 37 years on this Earth. I’ve doubtless walked past it many times, but this was the first time I actually saw it. Thin bridges of iridescence, flaring horizontally, suspended impossibly in mid-air and revealed only by the morning light. Their pattern was … Continue reading Everyday magic: finding wonder in the ordinary
How would you feel if I called you lazy? I don't know about you, but I can feel my hackles rising, the word has so many negative connotations doesn’t it? It's a criticism which my inner critic, Brian, likes to wheel out every now and again, especially when I'm feeling stuck in a rut. He … Continue reading Work Hard, Laze Hard
I'm having one of those days. I'm wrung out, everything feels like too much trouble and there's a low level anger bubbling resentfully in the background. My creative muse has fled and I don't feel like I could string a rhyme together if someone paid me (they won't). Inclement weather has invaded my brain and … Continue reading Beating the Overwhelm with Turtle Steps